Access Bars – what is it?

The first time I had my Bars run, my mind became clearer. Everything around me became more crystal. The second time, I noticed everywhere that I used to react and there was now peace. The third time my whole life changed. Having my Bars run supported me through depression, separation and creating a new reality more in line with what is true for me. This is why I became an Access Bars practitioner because the results of this non-invasive, gentle, effective process are very clear.

Is there science to this?

The Science behind Access Bars – better than meditation?

Neuroscientist Jeffrey Fannin, PhD, did a study that showed a single Access Bars session had a positive neurological effect similar to those experienced by advanced meditators.

What are the benefits of advanced meditation?

Why do those monks go into isolation to achieve the advanced meditative state?

To achieve a theta brain wave state!

“Previous studies have shown that theta waves indicate deep relaxation and occur more frequently in highly experienced meditation practitioners. The source is probably frontal parts of the brain, which are associated with monitoring of other mental processes.”

We all know that meditation helps relax people, but what exactly happens in the brain during meditation?

A new study suggests that nondirective meditation yields more marked changes in electrical brain wave activity associated with wakeful, relaxed attention than just resting without any specific mental technique – The Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU)

And the benefit?

Greater ease, more relaxed state, igniting self healing in the body and presence, reducing anxiety and depression. Increased focus and clarity, energy levels sky rocket!

Why Changing your Mindset won’t work

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Over the last two decades education has introduced growth mindset into their programs to grow children into the adults of the future who will be a contribution. More recently people are beginning to address their state of mind through mindfulness practice and mindset programs in the workplace.

How can these practices be sustained if the teacher in the case of schools or leaders of organisations are not sustaining their own mindset practice?

Leaders are seeing the importance of this untapped potential for their organisations.  

Here is why a change of mindset cannot be sustained in the workplace or otherwise. All humans form a foundation belief system formed throughout childhood.  Each belief system is unique and provides an undercurrent for adult behaviour. This undercurrent is influenced by culture, school, parents, home life, events, losses, and trauma.  The undercurrent is at its strongest at times of stress or overwhelm. The unique undercurrent is the foundation of the subconscious safety mechanism which results the respective behaviour.

Recent research results found that 84% of the work force in the United Kingdom experienced stress. Then the same percentage of people will only be able to function from their foundation belief system around the undercurrent.  This state is disempowering and will impact the organisational culture and results. Stress, overwhelm, sickness, tension, gossip, bullying, manipulation begin to show up in the organisation and create a strong collective under tow. KPIs are not met or even valued.

Empowered cultures with growth mindsets can be sustained.  Leaders who understand their disempowered undercurrent can lead with this awareness and begin the shift to empowered teams.

What is the undercurrent influencing  your leadership?

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The Power of “Will” and its Nemesis

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If you have ever observed a child between the ages of two and five you may have noticed how strong their WILL is. Parents certainly notice!! They know just what the want, need and desire and no matter what they WILL get it!!

It is the beginning of an attribute we favourably label as “determination” later in life. Sometime between school starting and finishing a strong will can be squeezed out of us by way of compliance.

During this time we decide what we are willing to be, have or desire and what we are not willing to be, have or desire. Which is a great thing right?

It is, especially when you realise the strength of the WILL is as strong as the WILL NOT!

So what are you NOT WILLING to be, have or desire in your life, business and leadership?

Are you NOT WILLING to fail, be poor, be rich, be beautiful, be ugly, have less, compromise……..

Energetically, what you are UNWILLING to be, have or desire WILL show up.

What?

If you are UNWILLING to compromise, energetically, somewhere in your life you may find compromise showing up. Often.

If you are UNWILLING to be poor, energetically, do you find yourself with money or love challenges?

If you are UNWILLING to lead a lazy, unproductive people, they may actually show up!

If you are UNWILLING to be ugly, energetically do you find yourself constantly trying to impress, look good and feeling like you could look better?

Why?

What you are UNWILLING to be, have or desire puts you in energetic resistance. A state of flux if you like. Where there is resistance there is persistence. What you are UNWILLING to be, have or desire WILL show up. It shows up because of your resistance to it. Your subconscious and conscious mind are locked into the UNWILLING so pays attention to it by way of avoiding it only to have it show up to remind you that it is exactly what you do not want!

It is a ludicrous cycle! How do you stop it?

First, become aware of what you are UNWILLING to be, have or desire in all areas of life. Write it down. Identify where that very energy is showing up and acknowledge it.

Second, take yourself out of the resistance to these. Ask yourself why you are resistant? Ask if you energetically were WILLING to be, have or desire these what would it create for you?

Thirdly, be in allowance of all of these things. Once you are they will begin to disappear from your life and leadership.

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Aroha: More than Love, the Breath of Life

Pu ana ki roto
Ki ana ki waho
Ka pu te ruha
Ka hao te rangatahi
I runga i te Aroha
 
Originating from within
It fills the outer
When wisdom emerges
Transformation occurs
Upon the foundations of Love

Borrowed from Aroha.org and translated by Ruth Makuini Tai

Aroha is a word I quickly embraced as a teenager of Maori descent with little Maori connection.  I used it to sign off cards and letters to friends and family. I used it as the Maori version of the English word “love”.  Over time I have become to realise the word “Aroha” is more than love.  I am learning that our indigenous cultures throughout the world with spoken languages speak each word with poetry and profound depth and breadth of meaning.  I understand that to learn another language we must base our learning on a direct translation of our first language.  My first language is English. Naturally, when learning a new language I want to attach new words to words that I know.  Aroha was love.
In my new season of life as a parent I am experiencing love differently.  I am beginning to understand the true essence of Aroha as its first speakers intended.
The components of the word Aroha when separated into Aro and Ha tell us that it is the “breath of life”.  As wahine we are such blessed creatures for we give the breath to the life of our children when they are born into our world.  This is why wahine are so highly regarded and why we should see ourselves as so.
As our children grow our breath will continue to nourish them.  The intensity of this will be dictated by their emotional, physical and spiritual development.
A practice of being with our children observed and promoted by Rudolf Steiner from the Northern Hemisphere must be one which was practiced by our indigenous people of Aotearoa in the Southern Hemisphere if we are to fully understand Te Reo.  This practice assumes that to grow our children need times of out breath and in breath.

Out breath. Take a moment to breath in. Deeply. Slowly. What do you notice as you breath out?  Hopefully a sense of renewel, energy and freedom.  Your lungs have been renewed of breath.  Energy levels lifted.  And freedom.  For me my focus on my breath during yoga certainly makes my body, mind and spirit feel free afterward.  If you know that feeling then it helps to understand out breaths for children are times to be free, to use their energy, and use the renewel.
Out breaths for children are a time to run, jump, climb, explore.  A time for their physical body to be used.  A time to interact with the abundance in the natural world around them.  A time to move further away from Mum.  Kicking on the mat.  Crawling outside without Mum.  Just beyond the patio or deck.  Out to the grass.  Into the back section.  Off to play with a friend.  Running down to the sea alone with Mum in sight. Off to Kindergarten. Out breaths get longer as do the boundaries of them.

Out breath time is time to play.  It is a time when the child does what they do best.  A time best uninterrupted by big people.  Play is sacred and it is the time children experience their world with all of their untapped potential.  They know just what they need to do.
To breath out we must breath in.  To be able to have the outward flow of energy, renewel and freedom we must breath in.  Can you remember times in your life where you would automatically take a long drawn inward breath?  When you arrived home from school and smelt a cake cooking?  After a period at work or sport outdoors in the cold and wet and you return home to the smell of hot soup or a roast dinner cooking?  Hopping off a plane in a tropical island and taking that first breath of heat flavoured with fragrance of frangipanis?   The smell of your babies skin? These inward breaths bring us closer to a source of nourishment, warmth, love, togetherness, security and a time to relax.  I am more mindful and all of my senses tend to become aware when I breath in fully.
Times of in breath for our tamariki are times to be with or near their significant carer; mother, father, carer, teacher, grandparents.  It is their time for security, warmth and nourishment.  A moment for them to go inward.  In breath time might be a cuddle, meal time, time to play or read beside Mum while she folds washing.  A time to read together.  A time to draw or construct.  This is a time of quiet and being close to a loved big person.
The lengths of breath depend on stage of development.  Remember those times when feeding your baby and they wanted to continue suckling even though they had had their full of milk?  Filled with milk yes and then continuing to comfort themselves with in breath time in readiness to breath out – in their time.  I remember these times extending for longer than I would have liked!  And I remember that if I cut this time short I would often have a “clingy” child.  I now understand why.  Times when my children will play quite happily outside for a lengthy time most often come after a good snack and five or ten minutes of stories read.
Aroha is the creative force that comes from the spirit.  Children are the best illustration of this.  When our babies are born they come with the greatest spirit and in their early years the creativity is immense, often blowing us away, making us smile or at times intimidating us.  A time to create with their hands is in breath time for children.  As long as Mum is nearby my girls enjoy moments to draw.  This creative moment fills their tank and then they will transition off into freedom of play.
Between people Aroha seeks unity and balance.  To ensure our children have times of in breath and out breath brings balance to their day and a sense of security.  Breathing in and out is a natural rhythm and one that can help our children through their day.  If we are their breath we can provide them with time to breath in and out. Observe when your child is happy to play by themselves. Reflect on the time just before this. Did the freedom to play alone follow time when you were together, a time of nourishment?
So what then of tantrums, frustrations, anger, meltdowns?  This is the part I continue to struggle with and that I am working on.
Imagine what it would be like to not be able to breath for some time.  We know what happens if breathing stops. We know too that a person will fight for breath.  They will thrash about.  They will have a surge of strength and determination to get what they need.  Does this sound familiar to the anger, tantrums or frustrations, even fearfulness you have seen in a child?  They need Aroha.
Now I write the following as work in progress.  Whilst I know it, I am still working toward it.
Children when experiencing moments of anger,frustration or melt down need Aroha, more than love.
They haven’t had an in breath moment soon enough, or needed an out breath moment sooner.  My youngest at two and a half spends most of her days with me, sometimes Dad, sometimes Grandparents.  I meet her breath fairly well most days.  Her big sister needs greater out breaths now.  She has transitioned into more days at kindergarten.  She loves it.  My transitioning of her home needs greater attention.
When a child attends kindergarten or day care this time can be considered outward breathing.  When we pick them up we need to give them an inward breath – a hug, holding hands walking to the car or home, a listening and attentive ear, and in my case a nourishing snack for her.  If you are driving home consider this out breath time.  Know that upon your return be prepared for another in breath.  Be present for your child.  They may need more food, your closeness.  Hold them in your mind and try not to be distracted, be beside and near them.  Then when they have had enough inward breathing they will show you they are ready to breath out.
Aroha is generous and abundant.   Often the meltdowns occur when we need to be preparing dinner.  The breath of a wahine when given will create more.  Make the time to stop and be with your child to prevent or heal a meltdown.  If the in breath time is genuine then they will move to out breath time, allowing you the moment you need to prepare the meal.  If more time is needed in breath, try inviting the child in the meal time preparation.  Chopping with you, breaking off stems, setting the table.  Work together to reach what needs to be done.  I have found that when I remember to do this then afternoon runs smoothly and then they disappear to play sooner than I think.
Aside from food we all need the nourishment of Aroha – love and breath.  Consider the power of your breathing and let it nourish your children with moments of in and out breath.